After a Break Up...

Splitting up is never easy, but with our break up advice...
It won't be quite as hard.

Once a relationship has ended, regardless of how serious it was, there is always a period of grievance.

Unfortunately, many play mind games with the other, making the break up much harder than it should be. There is really only one true – good – way to move forward with your own life after the break up...

As difficult as it may be, the first step is to stop communication with the other party. Okay, this may sound a bit harsh, but until both of you have moved on, communication can only twist your thoughts and emotions. Typically, one person will be led on by phone calls, emails, texts, and face-to-face social gatherings. Regardless of the situation, if there were feelings – at all – they are still fresh and can easily be manipulated, intentional or not.

This being said, the unfortunate soul who is still hanging on, will feel that there is still hope and that the relationship may continue if any or all of the issues are worked out. Even if you’re the vindictive type, this is not fair to the other person involved.

Whether intended or not, communication after a fresh break up, can appear as you leading the other person on. Depending on how long the relationship had lasted and how much time the two of you actually spent together, on the phone, physically, or even on instant messenger, this could be the hardest part of the break up.

So, the key to our break up advice is to keep yourself busy – and NO that doesn’t mean with a “rebound”. Pick up some extra slack at work, take an extra class, find a series of books to lose yourself in, hang out with friends more, whatever it takes to keep your mind off off communicating with “the one” that has recently stepped out of your life.

Okay, so here’s the good news:

By approaching the break up in this manner, it will allow you to move forward with your own life after a break up, easier and quicker.

Once both of you are at this point, and if you so desire, the communication between the two of you should no longer be hindered with the feelings that you once had for each other. At this point, neither party should feel led on by the other (and no sooner).

If, for some reason, that spark is re-ignited, make sure that it is mutual. The last thing you need – at this point – is to be led on or lead the other person on. After all, you just got through that period, why let it happen again later down the road!